BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

Do yourself some good and believ in yourself. Believe in God first, then yourself and also your dreams. Believe your dreams would come true, and believe you can make it. Believe you can build your future to be great, believe you would make it. Believe!!!!!!!!!!!
take your aim higher and also believe you were born with a purpose for a purpose. Believe you were born to be great and will also be the best.
The best you can do is to concentrate, cus concentrattion fueled with hard work and determination can take you higher than you expect.
Laziness brings people down, cus if you are not hardworking , you wont have concentration and you will not aim high, neither will you have absolute belief in yourself.
Always focus and always try to be yourself, you can make it if you believe.
B  be\
E  eager to/
L   live/
I    in
E   encouragement through/
V   velvent/
E   endeavours

LONELINESS,SADNESS AND HURT

To be frank, nothing hurts more than loneliness, sadness is something we practricalise, i mean its something we have to do with as long as it comes.....it goes with everything that has to do with it, but loneliness doesnt go without a mark.It doesnt go easily, it keeps recalling to the memory, body and soul.It physically shows, thats why it is easily recognized by others, it is always speechless,full of grieve , murmuring and traumatizing.
Loneliness is a whole world on its own. Why said so is because you think o0es and negative thoughts, like suicide or hurting yourself drastically, loneliness is a distractor, traitor and an evil spirit, cos when its gone, you will realise what you have done, its a place where one is never meant to be at all cause nothing comes best rather you cry even when you need no cry, you sick, even when you need no sickness, its never a scene to be in.
I bebelieve sadness has something good to write about than loneliness cos when you are sad, you will think , i mean you will concentrate cos everyone around you will stay away from you and when you are back from it, you will be more courageous , but when you are lonely, people will come close to you to ask you questions that will complicate it cos they cant really understand it because it is sometimes strange whenever you emerge but sadness is not so strange so in other words, loneliness is also a source of sadness...........................................

RULING YOUR LIFE.............FAMILY AND YOU

its practically offensive and so intruding when people keep trying to rule your life even when they know you are old enough to make your choice, make decision that concerns your life, and make mistakes that will teach you life lessons.
but this is not as annoying and infuriating as family trying to control your life and do all things listed above.
but above all, they are family, and family is love, is unity, is friendship, and its blood..............
never mess with family..........................they might be as annoying as hell.............................. but they always mean well. and no matter how annoying they are, you will always love them.

BEWARE OF BAD FRIENDS

BEWARE OF BAD FRIENDS

They are green snakes under green grass

They have sweet tongues

Their deeds are evil

They will always pretend to love you

They will call you all sorts of sweet names even honey and sometimes sweetheart

They would call you the sugar in their tea

But when they get you, they would spoil you and forsake you,

Do not mind them and beware of them cus they are as sharp as blade,

They cannot give you good advises,

They would force you to do evil with them

They will frustrate your future

They will abandon you in time  of trouble and need,

They will make jest of you in your time of need and pain

Their lips are filled with lies

They have deceitful tongues

They are wolves in sheep clothings

To help yourself, run away from them

 Let your answer to them sound like this:

“if you notice any change in my attitude, its not that I have ceased to be nice, but I have ceased to be foolish, cus it only takes time for me to realise my mistakes and to learn from them, even as I have also learnt from my foolishness,.i have ceased to have time for those kind of friends who have the disease of hypocrisy’’.

YOU NEVER FORGET DARLINGS.THIS ONE IS FOR YOU

This write up is for someone who has a special place in my heart and I there by urge you guys to always express things to that special some one you love and care about in ways that allows you to, and this is how mine goes,

I love you cus I was born to love you,

You are an amazing person that’s why you are still remembered even after ten years,

It’s a great memory for me because no matter how much I try ,I cant forget you cus you’ve already taken up residence in one part of my mind, heart, and memory,

You were an amazing father, an amazing achiever, and even as a single parent, you were always there for me,

I remembered one day as we were taking a walk and someone asked between my dad and my mom who I loved the most and I stared you in eyes and said “I wouldn’t trade my dad for anything in the world but it doesn’t mean I don’t love them both”

You were a darling, you made my childhood a one worth remembering,

You were a caring and loving father but also a strict one WHO NEVER LETS ANY MISTAKE GO UNPUNISHED, or uncautioned

I will not let you down dad, and I will make it a mission to make you proud in everything I do,

I JUST WANT TO LET YOU KNOW THAT YOUR ARE THE BEST AND YOUR FRESHEST  MEMORY AND GOD’S GRACE HAS KEPT ME GOING……………….

YOU NEVER FORGET DARLINGS………………..

BOOKS TO INSPIRE YOU

its been a weird day all together even though it hasn't really ended  ,the fact is ,  its not really weird per say but i kinda have a tendency of calling thing weird even  when they are  not, so  let me get down to the bases of today's write up.
I READ  BOOKS COS I LOVE READING  BUT  I REALIZED ALONG THE LINE OF READING  THAT I DONT JUST  READ FOR FUN ALONE ANY MORE,
I READ COS IT INSPIRES  ME AND KEEPS MY  FANTASIES ALIVE AND GIVES ME A HOPE EVEN IF ITS A FALSE ONE   .            
  NOW DOWN TO THE AUTHORS I LOVE;
I love JACKIE COLLINS, i mean literarilyand not in a creepy manner.  her  b ooksdriv es me crazy,  an di know some of you consider it boring but its  educating  and  realistic.
                 she always manag es to touch t he heart , min dand soul of  her readers ,  she is a great writer,  the best o fher books i love is the  SANTANGELO'S SERIES AND LOVERS ANDPLAYERS,  AND ALSO MARRIED  LOVER'S.
another amazin g writer i love   is SYDNEY SHELDON, he writes medical drama like no other, and i am so sure you guys will love him.
other writers i love that i would encourage you guys to check out are:
NORA ROBERTS 
MIRANDA LEE
PENNY JORDAN
READ AND BE INSPIRED..........................
CHAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   

QUESTIONS THAT NEED ANSWERS

there are lots of questions that need answers and it would really help all of us if we could get the answers so i went around and asked people what question that they would love to ask people, or what questions they cant answer and would love to know, so here are the questions:
does love exist?

what is the ingredients for a perfect relationship?

how do you know Mr/Miss right?

how do you know when a partner is cheating?

how do you  know if you re in love?

is 'out of sight' 'out of mind?

is it true that distance relationship dont last?

when do you know its time to get out of a relationship?
 
can love withstand all pain?

can a man who love you hit you?

can you forgive lies in a relationship?

does sex before love exist?
WE WOULD DEFINITELY LOVE TO HAVE YOUR ANSWERS

"BEAUTIFUL AND SEXY" OR "HOMELY AND ORDINARY"HOW WOULD YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO SEE YOU?

i couldn't think of anything to say as i listened to a man to day on my way out, the audacity some men have is utterly baffling, the way they think, talk and make decision can be some times annoying.
okay, this is what happened, someone brought up the topic about how you would want your wife to look, beautiful and sexy or homely and ordinary, some said beautiful and sexy cos it would make them proud while some said homely and ordinary, then all of a sudden from the back this man raised his voice and said" na una dey blow grammar, my wife will barb her hair like me"
every one was surprised at the outburst, as if sensing something interesting, a guy sitting near him asked " oga abeg explain", so the man explained that his wife would barb her hair just like him and they were certain outfits she wouldn't wear. he also said that she would not go out without him and if she ever lies to him or talk to any other man, he would beat her mercilessly .
i would like to know your opinion, so i implore you guys to share this blog/link to get other opinions too.
CHAO!!!!!!!!

TO LOVE AND TO HOLD

                                                                                                                                                   

TO LOVE AND TO HOLD

‘to love and to hold’, this are one of the vows a couple standing at                                         the altar pledges to one another and sometimes ,they break those vows.

 Every vow said at the altar on that day, is TO BE MEANT FOREVER,  so why do they break it? I would not pretend to know but for once I would like to know, but if there is one thing that I know for certain,  it is the fact that they just  don’t wake up one morning and decide to break their vows.

So, since I ve no experience, I will only give you the advise given by people who has had tons of experience from it,

1.    never go up the altar with some one you feel nothing for,

2.    never say those words if you don’t mean them

3.    never say those vows if you cant stand by them

4.    it’s a forever business,  so don’t be in a hurry,  take your time.

5.    its ‘to love and to hold’ and not ‘to tolerate and to hold’   if you don’t love or like,  you had better stay clear of those vows

6.    Listen to your heart before going into the forever business.

7.      never love alone ,LOVE AND HOLD

VALENTINE'S SPECIAL........DONT MAKE A BED

VALENTINE SPECIAL(MUSIC ,LOVE AND  LUST)

SO today is the special day; its vals day,  so a lot of things would be going on and a lot of entertainment factors might be included for those who are romantic at heart.

But today,  I am writing about the things which most lovers add to their valentine day to make it special so I will start with love;

Every valentine most lovers are always romantic about it cus it is fueled by their LOVE for one another, and this love are expressed in so many ways and that is were MUSIC comes in, most valentine, the perfect lover starts planning the perfect atmosphere were they would have the perfect sex to conclude a perfect  valentine and that is were LUST comes in , cus most valentine invokes lust,  a guy might be anticipating valentine not because his in love, but because of the lust he is anticipating to release.

Valentine is not a day to plan the perfect spot for sex or to yield your lust, it is a day to show others love including your partner in any way you can.

So maybe some couples express their love or feeling through the sex, what about you?how do you express your love?

Don’t start planning ways to get laid on vals, plan a way to show love to your loved ones and others, it will do us all a whole lot of good.

                                    HAPPY VALENTINES DAY Y ‘ALL

GIRLS PROBLEM (UNDER AGED) PART II

GIRLS PROBLEM

(UNDER AGED)

PART II

Now here is the second part of this amazing topic,  its not just  about the physical effects, it’s also about the psychological effects all this traumatic experience puts on the individuals, this is the story  of a girl who was not as lucky as Rachel

Amara was just eight when her problems started, it was just 8 months after her mum got married to her another man  , his name was Ejiro, he was from delta state and treated Amara well, she was happy cus even though her mum married someone else , it was someone great and kind, but all her illusions were shattered when her step father drastically changed after five months.

Her mother worked hard and came back home late everyday but her step father came home early.it had started seriously when she came home one day from school to find her step father home and drunk, he had just lost his job.

She quietly asked him what the problem was, and he had gently told her, after listening and consoling him , she went to her room to change, her step father was standing at the door watching her, to shorten  the creepy  details , he had raped her and told her that if she should tell anybody, he would kill her.

Amara became unhappy and depressed  because it happened on a daily basis, and one year later when she had turned ten, she was pregnant, she was scared ,  she had confided in her friend who had told her that she was pregnant , she wanted to tell her mother but she couldn’t , so she had told her step father who was responsible, he had told her that he would take care of it , and he did.

He took her to a private practice  were she had an abortion, and  few days later she died, so I don’t know what to say except for the fact that a lot of things is going on in our society and if you know of a way to create awareness about it, please do, cus we all need it.

GIRL PROBLEMS(UNDER AGED)

                                    GI RL   PROBLE M

                                    (under  aged)

A friend brought this topic to my mind while I was researching for this same topic  so I decided to write on the little that I already figured out and  I hope you all will learn fro m this true life  stories which are also great example to the teen problems we face in the world today, most especially in africa today,  about 15 million under aged girls get pregnant on daily basis in the world and about  29 million teenage girls get pregnant on daily basis. This is baffling to me, but I am not surprised because a lot of  factors,  things,  and people have a hand in this events and have attributed to it  in one way or the other,  here Is the story of a girl who has had the experience,her name is Rachel and I had her  blessings and that of her family to share  it with you guys;

Rachel  was an only daughter,  the only sibling she has is her brother Manuel,her parents adored and loved her but were also strict,she had a happy family until  her little brother Manuel  was born when she was six,  and then all attention was given to her brother.

Her mother had only time for her young little brother with no attempt  to divide it between them and to a little six year old Rachel,  that was a sin but she had been brought up to always say whatever was on her mind so she told her parents but they brushed her off and said she had enjoyed them for  six years so it  was time for her brother to take her place,  and they asked her to dropped it, they seem to only remember her  when they took her to school,  church or when it was dinnertime or anytime they wanted to go out.

By the time Rachel was seven,  she began to rebel  since it was the only way to get her parents attention,her parents never recognized this because they were still fascinated with their one year  old son,at the age of eight Rachel felt all alone in the world,  like everyone had abandoned her, and that was exactly when she met harry , it was exactly ten months  to her  nine years  birthday which she knew she wont celebrate or be happy about.harry came at a time when she was emotionally down, and he gave her exactly what she had always craved which was love and attention and made her feel special, harry  was sixteen years old and never really fancied Rachel, and Rachel herself could’nt  talk to either her mom or her father about it because they didn’t have time for her and since she had no one to talk to,she told their neighbour’s daughter who was her friend, since  Funmi was twelve years old,  Rachel felt she would know,  and she definitely didn‘t know, she told Rachel that she was lucky to have a boyfriend and should do anything he wanted but Rachel didn’t feel right about it so she went to talk to her mother, but her mom didn’t let her talk, she quickly left for her office with Manuel whom she was going to  drop at a daycare centre. So Rachel took Funmi’s ad vi se and did every single thing he asked her to do and two months later she was pregnant but she didn’t know be cause she didn’t know when someone was pregnant, she just knew she felt  a little sick and she ate a lot and vomited a lot to, after five months, her stomach started getting big too, she told her mom, that her  stomach was getting bigger,  her mother only asked her to stop taking too much water and to stop eating large amount of food.

Since no one took her serious,  she decided to go talk to harry , when harry heard all she said , he asked her not to worry, few days later , he ran. Four months later, Rachel woke up in the middle of the night,  cus she was feeling so much pain around her waist, after few hours of trying to muster the pain, she went to the bathroom to go and wash her face , she noticed hat she was bleeding and that something wanted to desperately come out her, she started screaming in pain as she unwilling pushed, her parents rushed out only to find out that their daughter had given birth. The baby died few hour after the delivery, but Rachel survived after being in comma for four weeks.i’ve no comments except to say that, Rachel went through a lot of physical and psychological traumas, its  left for you to tell  me what you think.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   

SEX

 SEX

Sex has be come a non- chalant subject that even an eight year old kid is not afraid to tell you what he or                                                                                she thinks of it.Sex is a physical activity between two people.  

 My grandfather once told me tales of the olden days were sex was rarely mentioned and practiced by only married people , making it  almost like an abomination  to have sex outside o f marriage.

But  now,in this 21^stcentury generation,  sex is totally taken for  granted,  and its so much that people don’t see it as a big deal,  but rather they see it as ‘fun    ‘.

   But sex is definitely  something that should not be taken for granted,  it is spiritual,  it is an act were two people become one and are bound together by this amazing act,  and that is definitely not meaning less. Some times people connect through sex,  they express their emotions through sex.  Sex is special and should be done with that special somebody you call your own,  yet generations of today don’t see it that way which is absolutely baffling , because I believe  that  even though some part of this generation don’t act wisely,I believe we’re wiser,  smarter, and much more intelligent and intune with our feeIings.

Finally, sex should be between two people who feel the same special way about eachother which  means that the sex should be special and so should the two people doing it.                                                                                                                                                                                           

EXPRESSSION BOUNCE GIRL

my very good friend Mike called me on the first day of this year to ask me how much for a pack of weavon, i was excited thinking it was for me so, i told him the price waiting and expecting my wonderful pack of weavon.
later that day, i called him  to enquire  if he had gotten the weavon, he innocently told me that he got it, i then excitedly asked which one? he then told  me he bought 'expression bounce' it was a brand of expression that came out recently and its gat most girls going crazy. i told him it was nice, he then said he hoped that she will like it, and that got my curiousity running 360 degrees.
i asked him who, a nd he said  Nne-nne, it was a girl in their neighbourhood, i got jealously angry , he told me that N ne-nne had asked for "expression bounce for her  new year  gift" and that made me even  more angry, i didnt hide it from him," why would she ask you for expression bounce?cant she get it herself?  and shes not even your girlfriend", i said to him on the phone, he laughed so hard i thought he wouldnt stop, he teasingly asked "are you jealous?"  i was now more angry at him, "i have a right to be jealous, you are my friend , besides Nne  nne is not a good girl" i answered, he only kept on laughing and told me to also accept Nne-nne as his friend, a nd i did, a n d i actually found out that Nne-nne  was a great girl but expression bounce didnt die , it became her official name