"BEAUTIFUL AND SEXY" OR "HOMELY AND ORDINARY"HOW WOULD YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO SEE YOU?

i couldn't think of anything to say as i listened to a man to day on my way out, the audacity some men have is utterly baffling, the way they think, talk and make decision can be some times annoying.
okay, this is what happened, someone brought up the topic about how you would want your wife to look, beautiful and sexy or homely and ordinary, some said beautiful and sexy cos it would make them proud while some said homely and ordinary, then all of a sudden from the back this man raised his voice and said" na una dey blow grammar, my wife will barb her hair like me"
every one was surprised at the outburst, as if sensing something interesting, a guy sitting near him asked " oga abeg explain", so the man explained that his wife would barb her hair just like him and they were certain outfits she wouldn't wear. he also said that she would not go out without him and if she ever lies to him or talk to any other man, he would beat her mercilessly .
i would like to know your opinion, so i implore you guys to share this blog/link to get other opinions too.
CHAO!!!!!!!!

TO LOVE AND TO HOLD

                                                                                                                                                   

TO LOVE AND TO HOLD

‘to love and to hold’, this are one of the vows a couple standing at                                         the altar pledges to one another and sometimes ,they break those vows.

 Every vow said at the altar on that day, is TO BE MEANT FOREVER,  so why do they break it? I would not pretend to know but for once I would like to know, but if there is one thing that I know for certain,  it is the fact that they just  don’t wake up one morning and decide to break their vows.

So, since I ve no experience, I will only give you the advise given by people who has had tons of experience from it,

1.    never go up the altar with some one you feel nothing for,

2.    never say those words if you don’t mean them

3.    never say those vows if you cant stand by them

4.    it’s a forever business,  so don’t be in a hurry,  take your time.

5.    its ‘to love and to hold’ and not ‘to tolerate and to hold’   if you don’t love or like,  you had better stay clear of those vows

6.    Listen to your heart before going into the forever business.

7.      never love alone ,LOVE AND HOLD

VALENTINE'S SPECIAL........DONT MAKE A BED

VALENTINE SPECIAL(MUSIC ,LOVE AND  LUST)

SO today is the special day; its vals day,  so a lot of things would be going on and a lot of entertainment factors might be included for those who are romantic at heart.

But today,  I am writing about the things which most lovers add to their valentine day to make it special so I will start with love;

Every valentine most lovers are always romantic about it cus it is fueled by their LOVE for one another, and this love are expressed in so many ways and that is were MUSIC comes in, most valentine, the perfect lover starts planning the perfect atmosphere were they would have the perfect sex to conclude a perfect  valentine and that is were LUST comes in , cus most valentine invokes lust,  a guy might be anticipating valentine not because his in love, but because of the lust he is anticipating to release.

Valentine is not a day to plan the perfect spot for sex or to yield your lust, it is a day to show others love including your partner in any way you can.

So maybe some couples express their love or feeling through the sex, what about you?how do you express your love?

Don’t start planning ways to get laid on vals, plan a way to show love to your loved ones and others, it will do us all a whole lot of good.

                                    HAPPY VALENTINES DAY Y ‘ALL

GIRLS PROBLEM (UNDER AGED) PART II

GIRLS PROBLEM

(UNDER AGED)

PART II

Now here is the second part of this amazing topic,  its not just  about the physical effects, it’s also about the psychological effects all this traumatic experience puts on the individuals, this is the story  of a girl who was not as lucky as Rachel

Amara was just eight when her problems started, it was just 8 months after her mum got married to her another man  , his name was Ejiro, he was from delta state and treated Amara well, she was happy cus even though her mum married someone else , it was someone great and kind, but all her illusions were shattered when her step father drastically changed after five months.

Her mother worked hard and came back home late everyday but her step father came home early.it had started seriously when she came home one day from school to find her step father home and drunk, he had just lost his job.

She quietly asked him what the problem was, and he had gently told her, after listening and consoling him , she went to her room to change, her step father was standing at the door watching her, to shorten  the creepy  details , he had raped her and told her that if she should tell anybody, he would kill her.

Amara became unhappy and depressed  because it happened on a daily basis, and one year later when she had turned ten, she was pregnant, she was scared ,  she had confided in her friend who had told her that she was pregnant , she wanted to tell her mother but she couldn’t , so she had told her step father who was responsible, he had told her that he would take care of it , and he did.

He took her to a private practice  were she had an abortion, and  few days later she died, so I don’t know what to say except for the fact that a lot of things is going on in our society and if you know of a way to create awareness about it, please do, cus we all need it.

GIRL PROBLEMS(UNDER AGED)

                                    GI RL   PROBLE M

                                    (under  aged)

A friend brought this topic to my mind while I was researching for this same topic  so I decided to write on the little that I already figured out and  I hope you all will learn fro m this true life  stories which are also great example to the teen problems we face in the world today, most especially in africa today,  about 15 million under aged girls get pregnant on daily basis in the world and about  29 million teenage girls get pregnant on daily basis. This is baffling to me, but I am not surprised because a lot of  factors,  things,  and people have a hand in this events and have attributed to it  in one way or the other,  here Is the story of a girl who has had the experience,her name is Rachel and I had her  blessings and that of her family to share  it with you guys;

Rachel  was an only daughter,  the only sibling she has is her brother Manuel,her parents adored and loved her but were also strict,she had a happy family until  her little brother Manuel  was born when she was six,  and then all attention was given to her brother.

Her mother had only time for her young little brother with no attempt  to divide it between them and to a little six year old Rachel,  that was a sin but she had been brought up to always say whatever was on her mind so she told her parents but they brushed her off and said she had enjoyed them for  six years so it  was time for her brother to take her place,  and they asked her to dropped it, they seem to only remember her  when they took her to school,  church or when it was dinnertime or anytime they wanted to go out.

By the time Rachel was seven,  she began to rebel  since it was the only way to get her parents attention,her parents never recognized this because they were still fascinated with their one year  old son,at the age of eight Rachel felt all alone in the world,  like everyone had abandoned her, and that was exactly when she met harry , it was exactly ten months  to her  nine years  birthday which she knew she wont celebrate or be happy about.harry came at a time when she was emotionally down, and he gave her exactly what she had always craved which was love and attention and made her feel special, harry  was sixteen years old and never really fancied Rachel, and Rachel herself could’nt  talk to either her mom or her father about it because they didn’t have time for her and since she had no one to talk to,she told their neighbour’s daughter who was her friend, since  Funmi was twelve years old,  Rachel felt she would know,  and she definitely didn‘t know, she told Rachel that she was lucky to have a boyfriend and should do anything he wanted but Rachel didn’t feel right about it so she went to talk to her mother, but her mom didn’t let her talk, she quickly left for her office with Manuel whom she was going to  drop at a daycare centre. So Rachel took Funmi’s ad vi se and did every single thing he asked her to do and two months later she was pregnant but she didn’t know be cause she didn’t know when someone was pregnant, she just knew she felt  a little sick and she ate a lot and vomited a lot to, after five months, her stomach started getting big too, she told her mom, that her  stomach was getting bigger,  her mother only asked her to stop taking too much water and to stop eating large amount of food.

Since no one took her serious,  she decided to go talk to harry , when harry heard all she said , he asked her not to worry, few days later , he ran. Four months later, Rachel woke up in the middle of the night,  cus she was feeling so much pain around her waist, after few hours of trying to muster the pain, she went to the bathroom to go and wash her face , she noticed hat she was bleeding and that something wanted to desperately come out her, she started screaming in pain as she unwilling pushed, her parents rushed out only to find out that their daughter had given birth. The baby died few hour after the delivery, but Rachel survived after being in comma for four weeks.i’ve no comments except to say that, Rachel went through a lot of physical and psychological traumas, its  left for you to tell  me what you think.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   

SEX

 SEX

Sex has be come a non- chalant subject that even an eight year old kid is not afraid to tell you what he or                                                                                she thinks of it.Sex is a physical activity between two people.  

 My grandfather once told me tales of the olden days were sex was rarely mentioned and practiced by only married people , making it  almost like an abomination  to have sex outside o f marriage.

But  now,in this 21^stcentury generation,  sex is totally taken for  granted,  and its so much that people don’t see it as a big deal,  but rather they see it as ‘fun    ‘.

   But sex is definitely  something that should not be taken for granted,  it is spiritual,  it is an act were two people become one and are bound together by this amazing act,  and that is definitely not meaning less. Some times people connect through sex,  they express their emotions through sex.  Sex is special and should be done with that special somebody you call your own,  yet generations of today don’t see it that way which is absolutely baffling , because I believe  that  even though some part of this generation don’t act wisely,I believe we’re wiser,  smarter, and much more intelligent and intune with our feeIings.

Finally, sex should be between two people who feel the same special way about eachother which  means that the sex should be special and so should the two people doing it.                                                                                                                                                                                           

EXPRESSSION BOUNCE GIRL

my very good friend Mike called me on the first day of this year to ask me how much for a pack of weavon, i was excited thinking it was for me so, i told him the price waiting and expecting my wonderful pack of weavon.
later that day, i called him  to enquire  if he had gotten the weavon, he innocently told me that he got it, i then excitedly asked which one? he then told  me he bought 'expression bounce' it was a brand of expression that came out recently and its gat most girls going crazy. i told him it was nice, he then said he hoped that she will like it, and that got my curiousity running 360 degrees.
i asked him who, a nd he said  Nne-nne, it was a girl in their neighbourhood, i got jealously angry , he told me that N ne-nne had asked for "expression bounce for her  new year  gift" and that made me even  more angry, i didnt hide it from him," why would she ask you for expression bounce?cant she get it herself?  and shes not even your girlfriend", i said to him on the phone, he laughed so hard i thought he wouldnt stop, he teasingly asked "are you jealous?"  i was now more angry at him, "i have a right to be jealous, you are my friend , besides Nne  nne is not a good girl" i answered, he only kept on laughing and told me to also accept Nne-nne as his friend, a nd i did, a n d i actually found out that Nne-nne  was a great girl but expression bounce didnt die , it became her official name